Kesuvos Chart #2
Chart for Kesuvos Daf 5a
WHEN DOES A BESULAH OR BE'ULAH GET MARRIED AND WHY? (1)
THE REASON FOR GETTING MARRIED THAT DAY |
WHEN DOES THIS REASON NOT APPLY |
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1 | *BESULAH* (Wednesday) | ||
a) | "IKRUREI DA'ATA" | In a place where Beis Din convenes every day (2) | |
b) | "SHAKDU" (for Besulah) | Whenever he spent three days preparing for the Se'udah (3) | |
c) | "BERACHAH OF FISH" (4) | One who does not care about receiving a Berachah (5) | |
2 | *BE'ULAH* (Thursday) | ||
a) | "SHAKDU" (for Almanah) (6) | An unemployed man, or when a Yom Tov occurs on Erev Shabbos (7) | |
b) | "BERACHAH OF MAN" (4) | One who does not care about receiving a Berachah (5) (8) |
Kesuvos Chart #3
Chart for Kesuvos Daf 5b
THE GEMARA'S QUESTION WHETHER IT IS MUTAR OR ASUR
TO PERFORM BE'ILAH RISHONAH ON SHABBOS
IF THE BLOOD IS "MIFKAD PAKID" | |||||
(A) HE INTENDS TO DRAW BLOOD |
(B) HE INTENDS TO MAKE AN OPENING (BONEH) |
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1a | IF "DAVAR SHE'EINO MISKAVEN" IS MUTAR |
Mutar | Asur | ||
1b | IF "DAVAR SHE'EINO MISKAVEN" IS ASUR |
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2a | IF THE ACT IS CONSIDERED "METAKEN" | Asur | Asur | ||
2b | IF THE ACT IS CONSIDERED "MEKALKEL" | Mutar | Asur | ||
IF THE BLOOD IS "CHABUREI MICHBAR" | |||||
(A) HE INTENDS TO DERIVE PLEASURE |
(B) HE INTENDS TO DRAW BLOOD (CHABURAH) |
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1a | IF "DAVAR SHE'EINO MISKAVEN" IS MUTAR |
Mutar | Asur | ||
1b | IF "DAVAR SHE'EINO MISKAVEN" IS ASUR |
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2a | IF THE ACT IS CONSIDERED "METAKEN" | Asur | Asur | ||
2b | IF THE ACT IS CONSIDERED "MEKALKEL" | ||||
3a | "MEKALKEL B'CHABURAH" IS PATUR |
Mutar | Asur | ||
3b | "MEKALKEL B'CHABURAH" IS CHAYAV | Asur | Asur |
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FOOTNOTES:
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(1) Regarding the Halachic practice today, see Insights to 7:1.
(2) Kesuvos 3a; however, there are some who prohibit getting married on Friday since Beis Din does not convene on Shabbos. See Insights, ibid.
(3) Kesuvos 3a.
(4) This actually is not a reason to get married on Wednesday, but rather to perform the Be'ilas Mitzvah on Wednesday night (for a Besulah) or Thursday night (for an Almanah).
(5) The reason of "Berachah" does not obligate a person. It is merely a Rabbinical recommendation (Tosfos 2a, DH v'Tinasei; 3a, DH Ishah; 5a, DH Mai).
(6) That is, Chazal wanted the Chasan to rejoice with her for three days (see Chart #4). Thursday he will not work and will be free to rejoice with her because it is the day of the Chupah, Friday he will not work and will be free to rejoice with her because of Chibas Bi'ah (Rashi), and Shabbos he will be free to rejoice with her because Melachah is prohibited in any case. (That is, the enactment of "Shakdu" for an Almanah is actually to get married on Thursday, and to perform Be'ilah on Friday.)
(7) The same applies if Yom Tov falls on any other day of the week, if he separates the day of the Chupah from the day of the Be'ilah. For example, if Yom Tov falls on Tuesday, it is permitted to get married on Sunday and to perform the Be'ilah on Monday, since Tuesday because it is Yom Tov and that will leave him three days of rejoicing (RITVA).
(8) According to the opinion that does not hold that the Berachah of man is preferable to that of fish, an unemployed man should get married on Wednesday (to perform the Be'ilah on Thursday), because that is the day on which Hash-m gave the Berachah to the fish (see Rashi 5a, DH Adam Batel, and Tosfos DH Mai).