OUTLINES OF HALACHOS FROM THE DAF
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KIDUSHIN 82 (Siyum of Nashim!) - Dedicated by HaGaon HaRav Yosef and Ruthie Pearlman of London, England. May Hash-m bless them with good health and all their needs, and may they enjoy many years of Nachas and joy from their wonderful family.
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1) MUST ONE TEACH A TRADE TO HIS SON?
(a) Gemara
1. 29a (Beraisa): A man is obligated to teach a trade
to his son;
2. R. Yehudah says, anyone who does not teach his son a
trade, (it is as if) he teaches him robbery.
3. 82a (Mishnah - R. Meir): One should teach his son a
clean, easy trade and pray to Hash-m, for wealth or
poverty do not result from the trade, rather, from
merit.
4. Aba Guryan of Tzadyin, citing Aba Gurya: One should
not train his son to drive donkeys, camels, wagons
or ships, or be a shepherd or grocer, for they
steal.
5. R. Nehurai: I will not teach my son any trade, only
Torah, for one enjoys its reward in this world, and
the principal remains intact for the next world.
6. Trades involving women lead to bad conduct, such as
jewelry makers, flax combers, people who fix
grinders, peddlers, weavers, barbers, launderers,
bloodletters, bathhouse attendants, and tanners.
7. (Bar Kapara): A man should teach his son a clean,
easy trade.
i. (Rav Yehudah): This is embroidery.
8. (Beraisa - R. Meir): A man should teach his son a
clean, easy trade and pray to the Source of wealth.
Wealth or poverty are not from the trade, rather
from Hash-m - "mine is the silver and gold."
9. (Beraisa - R. Nehurai: I will not teach my son any
trade, only Torah. Trades help one only in his
youth. When he is old, he will starve. Torah helps
one in his youth - "those who hope to Hash-m will
get renewed strength..." It gives him a good end in
his old age - "they will still flourish when old,
they will be fresh".
10. Makos 8b: Why does a father go to Galus (a refuge
city) for killing his son? It is always a Mitzvah
for him to hit him (so he will learn)!
11. Answer: The case is, he was teaching him carpentry
when he killed him.
12. Question: It is also a Mitzvah to teach one's son a
trade!
13. Answer: The case is, the son already knew a trade.
(b) Rishonim
1. Rif and Rosh (12a and 1:40): One must teach a trade
to his son. R. Yehudah says, if one does not do so,
it is as if he teaches him robbery.
2. Rambam (Hilchos De'os 6:10): One must be very
careful not to pain orphans... if one afflicted them
in order to teach them a trade, it is permitted.
3. Rambam (Hilchos Shabbos 24:5): On Shabbos, one may
arrange to hire someone to teach a trade to his
son... this is a Mitzvah. Your desires are
forbidden. Shamayim's desires are permitted.
4. Rambam (Hilchos Rotze'ach 5:5): If one killed his
son b'Shogeg while teaching him another trade that
he does not need, he goes to Galus. If he was
teaching him a trade (that he needs), he is exempt.
5. Perush ha'Mishnayos (Sof Kidushin): One is obligated
to teach to his son a clean trade. Therefore, he may
not teach him to teach (children)...
i. Einayim l'Mishpat (Kidushin 29a 8 and 82b): In
the Mishnah Torah, the Rambam brings a Mitzvah
to teach to him a trade, but we do not find
that it is an obligation. It is difficult to
say that R. Nehurai holds that there is no
Mitzvah and we rule like him. R. Shimon ben
Elazar holds that one need not teach him a
trade, for everything depends on one's deeds.
ii. Igros Moshe (OC 2:111 DH b'Davar): Income is
decided on Rosh Hashanah, but Hash-m decreed
that people will receive it only through work
or business - "b'Ze'as Apecha Tochal Lechem."
R. Nehurai agrees that one may not rely on
miracles. However, he holds that most children
cannot properly learn Torah and a trade at the
same time. Since the Torah commands the father
to teach Torah to his son, he is forced to
trust that Hash-m will present his son with
work when the son matures and needs to support
his family. The Rambam obligates a man to work,
but regarding children he rules like R.
Nehurai. We do not find that he obligates
teaching a trade to one's son. Just like
Hashem's decree does not mandate working on
Shabbos, it does not mandate neglecting to
teach children Torah properly. The Rambam
mentioned teaching a trade only in passing. He
refers to a child too weak to learn Torah, or
to someone older.
(c) Poskim
1. Shulchan Aruch (OC 306:6): On Shabbos, one may
discuss Shamayim's desires, e.g. to arrange to hire
someone to teach a trade to his son. One may discuss
if he wants to be hired, but one may not hire him or
mention the wage.
i. Magen Avraham (13): This is a Mitzvah, for if
he has no trade, he will steal.
ii. Beis Yosef (DH veha'Rav): Maharam, the Ramban,
the Ran and the Magid Mishneh forbid mentioning
the wage. The Mordechai permits if it is
needed.
iii. Bi'ur Halachah (DH u'Lelamdo): Tana'im argue
about this. Some say that one must teach his
son Torah and a trade or business. R. Nehurai
says that he teaches only Torah. All agree that
one must teach to him Torah and Yir'as Shamayim
before and while teaching him a trade, for
without this he will transgress in his trade
many kinds of theft and breaches of Torah.
Learning only Torah causes sin, all the more so
learning only a trade!
iv. Kaf ha'Chayim (51): One must ensure that his
son learns from a craftsman with Yir'as
Shamayim, lest he learn from his ways.
2. Rema (YD 246:21): If one learns Torah without
working, this causes sin and in the end he will
steal.
i. Gra (60): We learn from R. Yehudah.
ii. Aruch ha'Shulchan (OC 156:1): A trade is a good
thing. Many err and say that it is disgraceful.
One is obligated to teach his son a trade. Many
Tana'im and Amora'im had trades. The Medrash
(Bereishis Rabah 74) says that Melachah is
dearer than Zechus Avos. Zechus Avos rescues
money. Yakov told Lavan "If not for Elokei Avi
Avraham... you would have sent me away empty."
Melachah saves life - "...v'Es Yegi'a Kapai
Ro'oh Elokim v'Yochach Emesh" (and stopped
Lavan from killing Yakov).
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