How did he choose their ways?
Rashi: I chose all their ways and counsel. They asked me which way to go and what to do.
Malbim: I did not need to separate from the ways and customs of the people, like officers do, in order to instill fear on them. I conducted like them, and even so, I always sat at the head.
How did he sit at the head?
Rashi: If they were seated, I sat at the head.
What do we learn from "[k'Melech ba'Gedud] Ka'asher Avelim Yenachem"?
Kesuvos 69b: The mourner sits at the head. It is written like Yincham (he will be consoled).
Malbim: I was at the head, like a king who commands a troop, and also like one who consoles mourners. He is not at the head due to authority, rather, because he gives words of Musar and consolation 1 .
