1)
Why is it written ha'Sheloshi, and we pronounce it ha'Sheloshah?
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Radak: The writing is [ha'Shalishi] like "v'Shalishim Al Kulo" (Shemos 14:7 - captains). We pronounce it Sheloshah, for he was the head of the three who brought the water, and an officer over them.
2)
What is the meaning of "v'Lo Shem ba'Sheloshah"?
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Radak: He was mentioned for Gevurah with them. Malbim - this is because he waved his hand over 300 corpses, like Adino ha'Atzni.