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The proper age of marriage for a son is a Machlokes Tana'im if it is from 16-22 or from 18-24.
A father is only obligated to teach his son Mikra. (1)
It is a Machlokes if a grandfather is obligated to teach Torah to his grandson.
When one teaches his son Torah it is regarded as if he taught Torah to his grandson and great grandson through all of the generations.
A father is not obligated to teach his daughter Torah.
R. Yehoshua Ben Levi says when one teaches Torah to his grandchild it is regarded as if he received the Torah on Har Sinai.
A person should divide up his days and spend a third of his time on Mikra, a third on Mishnah and a third on Gemara.
The Torah consists of 5,888 Pesukim; Tehilim has eight more than that while Divrei ha'Yamim has eight less.
A person should learn well enough so that he is capable of answering questions immediately without hesitation.
When a father and son, or a Rav and Talmid learn Torah with each other they become enemies but they will eventually love each other. (2)
A person who occupies himself with Torah will not fall prey to the Yetzer Ha'Ra.
The Yetzer Ha'Ra gains strength everyday and attempts to kill a person and if Hashem Yisbarach did not help a person fight it off he would be unable to do so himself.
If the Yetzer Ha'Ra attempts to seduce a person he should drag him into the Beis ha'Midrash.
A father is obligated to marry off his sons and daughters. (3)
A father is obligated to teach his son a trade; according to some opinions he must teach him how to swim.
Rebbi Yehudah says that if a father does not teach his son a vocation it is as if he is teaching him to be a thief. (4)
A father is obligated to give his son a Bris Milah and to redeem a firstborn; a mother does not have this obligation.
Both a son and daughter are obligated to honor and fear their parents, however when a daughter marries she is in the Reshus of her husband. (5)
The Torah equates Kibud and Mora Av va'Em to Kibud and Mora of Hashem Yisbarach.
The Torah equates Birchas Av va'Em to Birchas Hashem Yisbarach.
There are three partners in a person, Hakadosh Baruch Hu and a father and mother when a person honors his father and mother Hashem regards it as if He lived between them and he honored Him.
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1. However the should continue to learn on his own Mishnah, Talmud, Halachah and Agadah.
2. While they wage battle over the Peshat in the Sugya they will be like enemies but when they finish battling they will love each other.
3. Even though is it is not in the hands of the father to marry off his daughter he is obligated to provide for his daughter the clothing that she needs to make herself attractive for potential mates.
4. According to Rebbi Yehudah a father must teach his son a vocation and it is not sufficient to teach him how to do business because sometimes a person does not have anything to business with and he will resort to robbery.
5. A married woman is not obligated to honor her parents if it detracts in any way from her responsibilities to her husband, however if she is divorced she is completely obligated in Kibud Av and Em.
The Yetzer ha'Ra is so difficult that even its Creator calls him bad. Why does Hashem Yisbarach call him bad if Hashem created him?
The Ben Yehoyada answer that Hashem Yisbarach authorized the Yetzer ha'Ra to openly seduce a person to sin without resorting to deception. If the Yetzer Ha'Ra only seduced someone openly it would be much easier to repel his advances. However the Yetzer Ha'Ra goes beyond his mandate and resorts to deception in order to seduce a person to sin. The Yetzer Ha'Ra knows a person will not listen to him to commit an Aveirah and transgress the word of Hashem so therefore he instead advises a person to do a Mitzvah and the Aveirah is concealed within the Mitzvah. The Yetzer Ha'Ra deceives the person into thinking that it is the Yetzer Tov that is advising him to do the Mitzvah and that is how the Yetzer Ha'Ra traps a person.
DIVIDING INTO THREE
A person should divide up his learning into three; one third of his learning shall be the 24 Sefarim of the written Torah, one third shall be the Mishnah, which is the Oral Torah and the commentary on the written Torah, and one third of the time he shall learn the Talmud…This only applies to a person who is starting to learn, but when his Torah learning is more developed and it is no longer necessary for him to learn the written and Oral Torah he shall put aside set times for the written and Oral Torah so that he does not forget any of the Dinim and he should spend the rest of his time on the Talmud. According to some opinions the Talmud Bavli is a combination of Mikra Mishnah and Talmud and it counts for all three. A person shall only learn Mikra Mishnah and Gemara and the Poskim that are based on them, and with that he will acquire both this world and the next, but he should not learn other wisdoms. However it is permitted to learn other wisdoms as long as he does not do so in a habitual fashion and as long as he does not learn Sifrei Minus. (Shulchan Aruch YD 246:4)
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