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Rebbi Meir: It is good to go to a house of mourning so that others will do Chesed for him when he dies in the same way that he did for others.
If the husband claims that immoral people frequent the house of mourning, he may make a Neder that his wife is forbidden to go there. (1)
If the husband makes a Neder that the wife must reveal to others embarrassing things that were said by one of them, he must divorce her and give her the Kesuvah.
The Beraisa states that if a husband makes a Neder that his wife must fill up and spill out a barrel of water ten times, he must divorce her. (2)
If the husband makes a Neder that his wife may not borrow or lend out her utensils, he must divorce her, because it gives her a bad reputation with the neighbors. (3)
If the wife claims that a Kohen separated the Ma'aser for her and the Kohen denies it, she may be divorced without a Kesuvah.
A wife may be relied on for the counting of the seven days of a Zavah.
If the wife claims that a Chacham ruled that her blood is Tahor and the Chacham denies it, she may be divorced without a Kesuvah.
If a wife is Muchzak with the neighbors as being a Nidah and the husband has relations with her, she is Chayav Malkus.
If the wife claims that a baker separated Chalah for her and the baker denies it, she may be divorced without a Kesuvah.
The sin of not keeping Nedarim is punishable with the death of one's children.
A woman is obligated mid'Oraisa to cover her hair.
Shmuel: If the wife curses her in-laws in front of the children, her husband may divorce her without a Kesuvah.
Rebbi Tarfon: If the wife discusses her intimate life in a loud voice, her husband may divorce her without a Kesuvah.
If one is Mekadesh a woman on condition that she does not have Nedarim and it turns out that she does have Nedarim, the Kidushin is void. (4)
If one is Mekadesh a woman on condition that she does not have Mumim and it turns out that she does have Mumim, the Kidushin is not valid. (5)
Any Mum that invalidates a Kohen from doing the Avodah is also regarded as a Mum for a wife.
Rav: If one is Mekadesh a woman on condition that she does not have a Mum and he subsequently married her without a condition, he must give her a Get. (6)
A BIT MORE
1. Rav Ashi says that only if it is Muchzak that immoral people frequent there.
2. This is because it makes her appear like a madwoman.
3. If the wife makes a Neder that she will not borrow or lend out her utensils, the husband may divorce her without giving her the Kesuvah, because her conduct gives the husband a bad name with the neighbors.
4. If no condition was made in the Kidushin and it turns out that she has Nedarim, the Kidushin is valid, but he may divorce her without a Kesuvah.
5. If no condition was made in the Kidushin and it turns out that she has Mumim, the Kidushin is valid, but he may divorce her without a Kesuvah.
6. Since he married her without a condition, the original condition is void. However, Shmuel maintains that the original condition still applies and thus she does not require a Get.
A HOUSE OF MOURNING
The verse says that it is better to go to a house of mourning than to a house of party, and the living should "put it in his heart" that one day he will need others to take care of his needs at his death just as he is taking care of the needs of others at theirs. The Hafla'ah asks that our Sages refer to the Chesed done for a Mes as "Chesed Shel Emes" because a person engages in the Chesed without any expectation of being paid back. Why is it regarded as a "Chesed Shel Emes" if the person has in mind that one day he will need the same favor? The Hafla'ah answers that it is regarded as a Chesed Shel Emes even though he will be paid back from Heaven, since he will not be paid back by the recipient of the Chesed.
THE DEATH OF A TZADIK
The living should put in his heart the concept of death that the person doing the burying will one day be buried, and the person carrying the deceased will one day be carried, and those who are wailing will be wailed for. Great is the Shalom that is given to the Tzadik at the time of his passing, because at the time the Tzadik passes away three groups of ministering angels grant him Shalom and say to him, "Come in peace." (Shulchan Aruch YD 403:10)
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