Jeffrey Gesser asked:
Dear Rabbis Kornfeld and Pearlman, shlita:
Thank you for your previous reply.
In the incident with Ula and R' Nachman and the Kos shel Brocha, after the latter's wife had destroyed the bottles of wine having not been given to tast from the Kos, why did R' Nachman order to send another Kos to his wife and purport that this was Kos shel Brocha when in fact it wasn't more than an ordinary cup of wine?
Thank you
Y. Gesser
The Kollel replies:
If you are asking Rav Nachman should not have misled his wife, the answer is that it is permissible to mislead someone in order to maintain the peace (Bava Metzia 23b, see Insights to Yevamos 65:1).
-M. Kornfeld