Surely one first forgets and then the anger abates, and not the other way around?
Oznayim la'Torah: Not at all! The Torah is teaching us here that one must first remove the anger from one's heart and only then will he be able to forget what the other person did.
Malbim: She means that through forgetting, his anger will abate.
Did Rivkah send for Yaakov to return?
Rashi (to 35:8): "And Devorah died...." What was Devorah (Rivkah's nanny) doing in Yaakov's household? Because Rivkah had promised Yaakov that she would send to take him out of there (the house of her brother), she sent Devorah 1 to Padan Aram to fetch him.
Who must have been well over 100!
Why did she say "Gam Sheneichem"?
Rashi: In the event that Esav would attack Yaakov and Yaakov would kill him, Esav's children would kill Yaakov.
Targum Yonasan: She thought that Esav would murder Yaakov and be forced to go into exile (in which case she would lose them both simultaneously. 1
Rashbam: If Esav will kill Yaakov, the Go'alei ha'Dam will kill Esav. 2
HaSh-m fulfills a Tzadik's words. How were these words fulfilled?
Rashi: It came true, when Yaakov and Esav died on the same day. 1
Sotah 13a: When they brought Yaakov to be buried in Me'aras ha'Machpelah, Esav objected. So Chushim the son of Dan, took a club and struck him on the head, and his eyes popped out and fell on to Yaakov's feet. In fact, they were buried the same day, but did not die the same day.
QUESTIONS ON RASHI
Rashi writes: "Ruach ha'Kodesh was thrust into her, and she prophesied that they would die on the same day." Why explain this way?
Gur Aryeh: Otherwise, she should have said, '... lest I be bereaved of both of you on one day.' Rather, she said, "Why shall I be bereaved...."
Rashi writes (to 35:8) that Rivkah sent Devorah to tell Yaakov to return. When did she send her?
Chizkuni (to 37:34): We find that Yaakov was punished for neglecting Kibud Av v'Em for 20 years in Beis Lavan. Rivkah commanded him to stay until she sends for him! We must say that she sent Devorah [promptly], 1 but Yaakov did not want to return [until 20 years later].
Sifsei Chachamim (to 35:8), Oznayim la'Torah: Rivkah sent her shortly before she died, 2 shortly before Yaakov returned home. Ha'amek Davar - Yaakov requested to stay with Lavan after the 14 years finished, for his mother warned him not to return until she sends for him. 3
Maharsha (to Megilah 16b, citing Ri of Paris): She sent her when Esav calmed down, after the 14 years that Yaakov was in Beis Ever before going to Lavan. (If so, how does Megilah 17a infer that due to the merit of Torah, Yaakov was not punished for his years in Beis Ever? He was commanded not to return yet! Refer to 27:44:1:2***. - PF)
Oznayim la'Torah: Even she erred however, in underestimating Esav's anger - and it was only 34 years after Yaakov left that she sent Devorah to fetch him from Lavan (Refer to 35:8:1:1). Even then, she erred (Esav was still angry) - as the Navi writes, "v'Evraso Shamrah Netzach" - 'And he has kept his fury forever!' (Amos 1:11). Radak - this includes his seed. Due to this, we suffered bitterly throughout history and continue to suffer to this day. (EC)
Why did she send for Yaakov about two years after he already returned to Eretz Yisrael and encountered Esav? Perhaps Esav did not tell her, or she did not see him (he went to Se'ir). Or, she sent to tell him to come quickly (Yaakov delayed two years on the return home, mostly in Eretz Yisrael - refer to 33:17:2:1), especially if she sensed that she will die soon! However, how can these opinions explain why Yaakov was punished for the 20 years (refer to 27:45:151:1)? Refer to 27:44:1:2***. (PF)